April 17, 2009
NLP question. How to get rid of strong anchor?
Steve P asked:
Very stupid I know but can't get rid of it. Once my former friend told me that people that don't look in the eyes are weak, ok. So everytime we talked, it was a staring contest. I just started to "stare" at him and tried hard to keep eye contact. Over time, I couldn't concentrate on listening to him, all I did just stare. My eyes started to feel a lot of pressure because of this and were wide open. Now, every time I talk to somebody, it's just automatic. I automatically seek for eyes, I just can't help it. I can't concentrate on what a person talks about because I am concentrated on eyes. Worst of all, I feel like my head is going to blow up while talking for some time because of the pressure I feel on the eyes. It's just automatic, it's an anchor, I know but how do I get rid of it, so I can get back to normal, just calmly look at somebody, listen to him and don't feel any pressure. It's just ruining my life, I feel like I am going to go crazy. PLEASE HELP!!!
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Very stupid I know but can't get rid of it. Once my former friend told me that people that don't look in the eyes are weak, ok. So everytime we talked, it was a staring contest. I just started to "stare" at him and tried hard to keep eye contact. Over time, I couldn't concentrate on listening to him, all I did just stare. My eyes started to feel a lot of pressure because of this and were wide open. Now, every time I talk to somebody, it's just automatic. I automatically seek for eyes, I just can't help it. I can't concentrate on what a person talks about because I am concentrated on eyes. Worst of all, I feel like my head is going to blow up while talking for some time because of the pressure I feel on the eyes. It's just automatic, it's an anchor, I know but how do I get rid of it, so I can get back to normal, just calmly look at somebody, listen to him and don't feel any pressure. It's just ruining my life, I feel like I am going to go crazy. PLEASE HELP!!!
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April 18, 2009
Kangaroo :
I think you are just being conditioned to that. You may try to focus on other things instead when you talk? I think it will be tough at the beginning, but just try to distract yourself from that and focus on other things as much as you can. Hope this will help.